All tests turn into testimony, believe dat!
It probably feels like the end of the world right now and nothing seems to be going right you’ve gone from knowing this was the right relationship but in one instance your fate changed and he is no longer become the love you recognised.
Fellas ain’t sh*t that’s true but let it not be about them let it about you, for when you get back to getting you right everything else will fall in its place. Here are some real talk pointers to get you thinking right as you reflect on your role, his role and the relationship in general.
Did you play wife for someone who is not your husband?
Don’t do the most! Never be the woman who always cooks and cleans constantly in his house, often the one planning what you should do together from vacations to opening a bank account. Save that for when you’re married, do enough but your level of effort must be matched by him too and if it’s not, then it’s time to reel yourself back in. If he notices your minimal effort and works at salvaging things then switch up the game and let your effort match his. If after a while it’s not working for you then it’s time to go back to the drawing board and decide what it is you want in a partner and in a relationship, and if neither matches what you desire for yourself then sis you know what to do.
The best love is the kind that makes you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself.
He must treat you the same way you would treat yourself
His actions should be of your focus because anyone can say words they feel the other person needs to hear but only he that truly cares and is not willing to lose you will let his actions match his words. If you find yourself constantly nagging about the same thing, then sis stop telling him what to do, he already has a mother and that’s what she is there for.
What you allow is what will continue.
A relationship is based on relating if that doesn’t exist then there really is nothing you’re building
You’re in pain but to fix the pain you need to figure out the cause because you cannot communicate what you do not understand. So figure out your emotions before you express yourself and work at communicating what is going on. During that moment take time to listen not only to what is said but to how it is said, the devil is in the detail. You’re in a relationship to be happy, to create memories and to grow but if you find yourself always crying, hurt and upset then its either you work at resetting things within your relationship or halt things for your sanity is imperative.
Don’t depend too much on anyone in this world. Even your shadow leaves you when you’re in darkness.
Lastly, sis, let the measure of your decision not be from an emotional perspective but from a logical point. So if you feel that your thoughts cannot be understood stay silent until the point to do so brings itself, for it is better to be silent than speak unmeaningful words.
If you have decided you want to fix your love gone wrong, then start by taking it back to the beginning. Here is how!