Being part of a toxic family can be weird AF
On one hand, you’re with your people and you spend every chance you get loudly reminiscing about stealing rice to play chamama chababa . On the other hand, you are on edge; at some point your toxic family stopped being your safe space. Words are exchanged, then later, it doesn’t matter. You feel like a horrible person for not wanting to spend more than a few hours with people you’re supposed to love. However!!
This is the reality! I think we all know that toxic families exist. It’s no longer a myth that we have mothers, fathers, siblings and your aunt’s tailor who for some odd reason knows all three of your boyfriends who just cannot let you prosper!
Hi, I’m petty, and here’s how to handle all that energy draining voodoo from people you HAVE to call family.
Yes, it is part of the process. You just gotta accept people for who they are and move on! Stop making excuses for your absolutely useless brother, and your Ain’t shit sister and you will live a calmer, Zen life. Acceptance is key, don’t argue with me because I don’t make the rules.
If we’re being honest-see what I did there? Most toxic behavior goes unchecked because we are scared of being honest. Learn to find your voice especially if your family dynamic is complicated. If something does not sit well with you, speak out, be assertive. Don’t go around flipping tables and pinching babies though.
3. Put yourself first
No one is saying be Cruella De Ville, okay, but we are. For good reason too! Be a mean bitch with your emotions, time, space and money. Handle your business first kabla uchekwe Mother Teresa!
4. Snip, snip!!
Sometimes you gotta abandon ship. You are a young woman in your prime; you are a lover, a mother, a friend who is like a sister. We have families who are more than blood. That dead beat dad who keeps popping up when he needs something? Snip snip!
It’s 2019 and the only energy we are allowing around us is positive energy, please and thank you! Learn to prioritize yourself over energy vampires that want to use and abuse you. Are we togeza?