It doesn’t have to be this way.
Getting along with your boyfriend’s family is important. Family comes first and if he’s forced to make a choice, chances are, you would lose out. Don’t lose hope, there are things you can do to try and bridge the gap.
1. Let them get to know you
When you are with your boyfriend’s family, it is hard to be yourself. You are trying to be on your best behavior and are often guarded as a result. Let your guard down a little bit. Let them know about your goals and aspirations, your hobbies. In doing so you are likely to find some common ground with at least one of them.
2. Use it as a lesson
Sometimes you need to take the high road and humble yourself. If they have a problem with you it is likely borne from genuine concern for their son. Do not immediately go on the defensive. They might have legitimate reasons for their ill feelings. Trying to have a conversation with them can go a long way. Perhaps they’ve picked up something about you that you had no idea about, and could improve.
3. Try not to take it personally
I know this is easier said than done. Keep in mind they love your man as much (if not more) than you do and they want what’s best for him. As unwarranted as their coldness towards you might be, it comes from a place of love. Try and take your relationship with them day by day and do not take everything they do to heart.
Relationships with your in-laws can be tricky. Don’t give up on it; you already have something in common, you both love their son.