Keeping a good MAN!
These days love is like a joke. People seem to laugh at other peoples failed love stories. Take for example Vera and Otile. The way she aired his dirty laundry to the whole world and people seemed to enjoy his downfall. I am not taking sides here, but if you really want to keep your man, there are some things you shouldn’t do. Lines you do not cross for your sake and his. Be mature about it.
1. Make sure you’re compatible with each other
Please, I beg oh, don’t waste his time and yours if ya’ll keep bumping heads. If you’re not compatible with each other, the relationship isn’t going to last. If you are compatible, things will work between you even when times are tough and things get hard.
2. Be someone he can confide in
Not someone who runs to dish out personal matters to outsiders when you’ll get into problems. A man wants a woman he can count on and depend on as his best friend and confidant. Don’t go telling the world about your relationship. It only makes you look stupid and not him. Look at Vera, what did she gain from all she did?
3. Make sure you’re speaking the same love language
People show love and receive love differently. If he expects to receive love in a different way than you like to show it, then he might feel like he’s not receiving any love from you and vice versa. That means that if he likes to show you love by giving you gifts, taking you out then he also likes to receive love by receiving the very same things. It’s a two-way street.
4. Match after his commitment level to you- Don’t go chasing his love
I am not bashing Vera here but it’s pretty evident that Otile didn’t love her. She still went back even after he proved to feel differently about her. Please, correct me if I am wrong. Many, many women make the mistake of thinking that if they just act like they’re in a serious committed relationship with a guy, he’ll wake up and want to be in a serious committed relationship with them. Sadly nope! truth is, this is actually the exact opposite of how it works and ends in heartbreak almost every time.
Keep your relationship between you. You’re in love not with the world, but with your significant other. That’s all that matters. Once you start bringing things from outside, the relationship won’t last. Avoid this at all costs. Please ladies; be smart. Don’t lose a good man.