Unwanted Pregnancy, Adoption, Death and Depression: Kanze Dena's Devastating Story Is A Must Read - ZUMI

Unwanted Pregnancy, Adoption, Death and Depression: Kanze Dena’s Devastating Story Is A Must Read

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Bob Marley said that you never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice. It is why people are able to live on through tragedies and come out even stronger than they were.

People like Kanze Dena.

The beautiful Kiswahili news anchor became a household name for her articulacy and charm on the screen. However, behind the strong smile and fierce attitude is a bereaved mother dearly missing her baby.

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Featuring on a popular show called Story Yangu, Kanze told the story of a determined woman with an unwanted pregnancy, a mother’s love and the painful suddenness of death.

Here’s her story,

“I got Pregnant while working at a fast food Café in town called Vesbar. After getting pregnant I was forced to back home and take care of my pregnancy. While at Home I got an opportunity to join College to do short IT course at Mosongari. All this time I was carrying my pregnancy in privacy, only one of my very close friends knew I was pregnant because I had gone with her for Crisis pregnancy at Pumwani. My Mother wanted me to be a journalist but I wanted to be like my Aunt who was a nurse…

Out of fear and the need to prove to my parents that I was the innocent good girl, I wanted to give out my baby for adoption, I knew my mother will kill me if she finds out I was pregnant. So I tricked them to allow me stay in Hostels so that I can play safe, because I Knew if I stay at home people will know I am pregnant.

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Being my first time pregnancy, I did not know what to do, so I lied to my grandmother that I have to go back to the hostels and do some laundry. Reaching at the hostel, I talked to my friend and we took a Taxi to Pumwani. At Pumwani I received by the nurse who was in charge if Crisis Pregnancy. I labored for a few hours, before I could deliver, the nurse who was handling me, was called for an emergency, she handed over to her male colleague, who didn’t know that I wanted to give my child out on adoption. You know when you are giving out your child for adoption, you are not supposed to hear her cry or even hold her to avoid bonding. So the nurse helped me deliver and gives me the child. At that time my instincts started questioning if it was wise for me to give away my child.”

 

And then a mother’s love saved the day.

She said,

“So I asked my bed mate to look after my baby as I took a shower, when I came out, I saw my mother right beside my daughter. She had cried her eyes out. Then she called by my home name and said, ‘Beatrice kwani mimi ni mama mbaya aje mpaka huwezi niambia uko na mimba?’

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She picked my daughter and I was discharged coz that was my last day in hospital. I was in a dilemma, as I never knew where I was going to take the baby, because in my mind I knew she will be adopted, but the plan had backfired. I had to avoid the van that had come to take Natasha away as we were leaving with my mother…”

A few weeks later, Kanze left her daughter with her mother and went to sit for her final exams. Three months later, Kanze says that she was ready to see her daughter. She bought lots of baby staff with hopes of giving her daughter a good life and upbringing.

“One Morning my Aunt just told me that I should go home. I did know what was going on, I book I car with one of Aunts and head home, we arrive at home I find so many people at our compound. I was shocked to see so many people, I thought something bad had happened to my Mum. Then I saw my mum all broken and crying , I rushed to the house and saw my late daughter Natasha lying lifeless on bed with a smile. She died with a smile. She had died the night before. The incident broke me so much, it made me feel like God was punishing me, remembering that I did not want the child at the first place.

My mother told me that Natasha Passed away at night while sleeping. She says she realized that that night the baby had “shit” on herself something that was never her norm.” after changing her diapers, she realized that Natasha was not reacting as always. She lifted her up and that’s when she realized she was very still, then she just smiled and passed on.”

Till present, no one knows what caused the death of her child. She went through depression for almost a year and a half before she came back to Nairobi and study Mass Communication.

Now, Kanze is a single mother of a six year old boy son and a terrific news anchor.

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Source: Instagram/ Kaydee Dena

There really is a silver lining to every dark cloud. Watching Bien sing to his nephew will you major baby fever.

 

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